Dating a polyamorist can be scary because monogamy is often seen as the standard for security. In monogamous relationships, commitment-phobes can be very careless with people’s hearts. On the other hand, polyamory is sometimes joked about as loving commitment so much that they have multiple relationships. This doesn’t mean there aren’t toxic polyamorists—there are toxic people in any orientation. Even if a person isn’t toxic, a lifelong relationship isn’t guaranteed. Love is a risk, but polyamor