Understanding the Self | Overview, Self-Concept & Significance

The erotic, in Lorde’s definition, is a source of power. Of knowing. Of deep feeling. It’s a rejection of numbness and survival-mode, and a return to aliveness. Not productivity. Not performative “self-care.” Not what looks “empowered” to the outside world… but what feels real, raw, and right in your body. For those of us socialized to prioritize others, to shrink our hungers, to ignore our pain…this kind of power can feel dangerous. But maybe that’s the point. Have you read this piece? It’s a f